The real reason many people let lawyers negotiate for them or judges decide for them, is because they're unwilling to face the conflict they have with the other side, they're unwilling to have difficult conversations, and they're afraid of failing. Sure, there are some cases where the other side is unwilling to be reasonable, but if everyone thinks that way, then everyone is unreasonable.
To think about it another way check out this twitter thread using a conflict over pizza as the example:
Think about it this way: You’re in your home and you and your partner have a disagreement about something, let’s say it’s what to have for dinner. You want to cook homemade pizza and they want to order a pizza. Who is right? 2/— Justin L. Kelsey ☮️ (@skylarklaw) January 28, 2020
For more information on how #mediation and #collaborativelaw actually work check out these articles:
A Collaborative Law Success Story - 4 part Video Series
You're Thinking about Conflict All Wrong
What Does it Mean to Call Yourself a Collaborative Lawyer?
Improving Negotiations using Collaborative Values: A Checklist of Tools
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