In my experience having represented both men and women, everyone experiences the loss, the frustrations, the anger, the relief, and all of the other emotions of divorce differently. Although I have noticed some similarities across cases, they often depend more on the financial similarities between those cases, than the role of men or women.
For example, there are still many cases which fit into the traditional model of a homemaker wife and wage earning husband. There are of course similarities across cases about how homemaker wives experience financial distress and may need more assistance in understanding the finances of the marriage. Similarly, when the mother has been the primary caregiver for the children, father may need more assistance in understanding how to parent effectively on his own.
However, I have also handled cases where the wife was the main wage earner, and the husband the primary caregiver to the children. And much more typically today, we handle cases where families share these responsibilities.
Because individual cases vary so greatly, I don't think any generalizations about how women or men experience divorce differently can be all that useful. The best advice for anyone going through divorce I believe applies equally to both men and women: be calm, be reasonable, be forthcoming, and seek help when you need it.