Of course, this raises significant concerns about the behavior of the 20% who have already invaded their partner's privacy, including concerns about trust in a relationship and the dangers of controlling behavior in relationships.
It is just as shocking, though, that just as many men responded that they hadn't invaded their partner's privacy yet, but would if they were suspicious. Or, at least it would be shocking if I wasn't a divorce attorney.
In fact, I often warn my clients that everything they say can and will be used against them in Court, and that includes things they say on facebook, twitter, and even potentially in their e-mail or snail mail. Many parties don't realize that besides the lack of privacy on sites like facebook, even their e-mail and letters are discoverable in a Divorce case and could become evidence. The only communications that are not admissible are those that are privileged, such as communications with your attorney.
Regardless of the fact that some communications are discoverable, that doesn't mean you should make access to your private life easy for your ex, or allow potential breaches of the attorney-client privilege. Here are some immediate steps you should take to ensure that your ex does not have access to your e-mail, mail or other accounts:
1. Immediately change all of your passwords for e-mail, facebook, banking and other accounts. Don't use the same passwords for any accounts and make your passwords complicated so that your ex cannot guess them. For reasons why you shouldn't choose easy passwords check out this article at LifeHacker. For tips on picking strong passwords check out this article at TechSoup. If you still have concerns about an account, close it and open a brand new account.
2. Obtain a P.O. Box. Obviously if you and your ex have not yet separated there is the potential for issues with your mail, but even if you have separated and our living apart, your mail is still often vulnerable to both accidental and purposeful interception. For example, if your ex places a mail forward on their name, any mail that is marked poorly (Mr. instead of Mrs. by accident) could be forward to your ex without you ever seeing it. In addition, federal laws against mail tampering are easily broken since none of us have locks on our mailboxes. And unfortunately, children often having prying eyes.
Considering that the cost of a P.O. box for a year is probably cheaper than one hour of your attorney's time, it's well worth the investment to avoid the potential problems of having your mail unsecure.
3. Encrypt Electronic Communications. At Kelsey & Trask, P.C. we use SSL encrypted e-mail, and we encrypt and password protect any documents we send to clients that have private or financial information. You should ask your counsel to do the same to ensure that even if your account or your computer are somehow accessed, the draft and final files that you have exchanged with your counsel are not easily accessed.
For more information about protecting your privacy as much as possible through the divorce process, contact Attorney Justin Kelsey at (508) 655-5980 and schedule a one hour initial consultation.